Hello hello hello!
Welcome to my blog/newsletter. I know you must wondering “Why in the hell do I need help with meeting people” or “Bro, I’m like the coolest person you have ever met! I don’t need any tips on connecting.” Hold your horses my friend. We can all learn something from somebody. In fact I am a firm believer that I have learned something from every single person I have ever met, both good and bad.
The purpose of the blog is not to be another corny resource where I tell you to make eye contact and tilt your head 45 degrees to the right. That’s for robots and/or aliens posing as humans, of which you are neither. At least I hope. No my friend, this blog is going to be a resource of how people have made real life friendships and connections that can be beneficial to all parties involved. For THIS is the perfect connection! This applies to business as well as personal situations.
In addition to my own experiences I’m going to have many stories from the amazing people I have met throughout my journey who have left an impression on me. Which leads me to my first takeaway (I’ll elaborate at the end.)
So I hope you enjoy the ride and I would love nothing more than to hear some of your stories, tips, and relationship hacks. Each blog post is going to have a takeaway and an action. These should prompt you into strengthening one part of your social game. Do them and email me to tell me how it went!
So now onto my takeaway….
As I have eluded to now twice, believe it or not you CAN learn something from everyone you encounter. Far too often I will observe someone writing off a person because they think there is no value in a simple conversation. This is a huuuuuge mistake! You could potentially be missing out on a new close friend, a business opportunity or an adventure you never saw coming. Now sometimes you just won’t be in the mood to talk, completely understandable. This doesn’t apply to those moments.
By simply initiating a conversation I have built meaningful relationships with professional race car drivers, millionaires, billionaires, corporate pilots and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu world champions! All of which conventional thinking would tell you are “not in my circle”. Screw that, we are all people riding Earth around the sun. We might as well get to know each other.
Ok my friends here it is. Have a conversation with someone today outside of your social circle. Do not just exchange pleasantries, but really learn something about this person. In can be the gas station attendant that you see daily, a cashier at a grocery store or the mailman. Now store that interesting fact you learned in that big ol’ brain of yours and bring it up the next time you see them.
For example. Let’s say I speak to Greg the grocer. I ask him how his day is to which he replies
“Oh pretty good. My ankle is a little sore from playing soccer yesterday but I’ll live.”
BOOM! I now know Greg plays soccer and 100% will drop that tidbit next time I see him. Like so….
“Oh hey buddy, how’s your ankle? Feeling better? So are you a big Manchester United fan?”
This is a win for all parties involved. You made Greg’s day for remembering his ankle and his love of soccer, and you made a real life connection. You’d be amazed at how many people don’t do this. Don’t be one of those people.
Get out there and meet some folks!
P.s. If you are stuck and want a little advice on this hit me up firstname.lastname@example.org